From a Male's Mind

In my time at BYU I have been able to see many young and happy couples succeed in their quests to find the right 'one.'  They meet, they date, they become happy, love each other, and eventually seal the deal through marriage.  Several of my own friends have had this pleasure.  They have found the person who they hope to be with for time and eternity.

That is one side of the spectrum.  On the other side, I have seen quite a bit more of my friends fail and fail again in the realm of dating.  Many become discouraged and decide to lay low for awhile, until they recover from the last heart-brake they've had.  Some take longer than others.

What is it that goes wrong?  Is it a misunderstanding between the two?  Miscommunication?  Were they just never right for each other?  Do the two even agree on what went wrong when they split, or do they go their separate ways, each believing that the relationship was broken off for different reasons.  It would not surprise me if the scenario described in the last question occurred frequently.  Let's face it, none of us ever want to see ourselves as the problem.

Is that very smart though?  If people have a misconception about themselves and are too prideful to listen to another person's criticism, they may never be able to better themselves and will be stuck in a continuous dating cycle that ends up going nowhere.  Understanding one's own flaws will lead to a more humble and wiser person.  I have many friends who have broken up with a girlfriend.  One of these friends, I remember, would frequently be texting his ex to try and find out what he did wrong.  He did not blame the failed relationship on the girl, but looked inward and wanted to find out how he could improve.  Well, it must have worked, because he is now happily married.

I believe that it is more important for us to work on our own faults and understand how we live personally.  Understanding ourselves before understanding another will only give us positive results.  Besides, lets face it, trying to understand the female mind is like a fish out of water.